On monday 21st November 2005 my partner cleo had a stroke. Since then we are bashing our heads against all the problems of rehabilitation and care that most people never encounter.This blog will be a record of our road to recovery and the thoughts I have along the way.....

Monday, February 20, 2006

Day 92 - Bad Day

It's odd how one's attitude can change over time, even a few short weeks. James told us, when we were only a few weeks into the the recovery time that on average, post stroke recovery continues up to about 90 days post stroke. At that time we were only some 40 odd days into the rehabilitation, and 90 days seemed a long way off. Of course 90 days has come along and cleo must have had that in her sights without telling anyone.

This morning, once the kids had gone off to school and I had taken one of the cars to the garage for some work, I needed to sleep, and cleo came upstairs with me to sit in the bedroom. Without warning she burst into tears. "I don't want to be like this for the rest of my life...." she sobbed, going on to explain that the 90 day mark was past and she still had nothing in her arm or hand. I know that she is very frustrated about this lack of recovery, but just because that 90 days has expired means nothing. However, try telling that to the person concerned.

I guess that everyone who suffers similat kinds of illness or injury goes through those bad days, and it's really up to them to lift themselves. What we as carers must do is give as much support and help as we can, allied to positive attitude. It is a tough thing to deal with for cleo, because she has always been so independent and self-reliant. Now of course much of what she does requires help from someone else, although recently as i have explained in here she has become a little less dependent on others for getting up and down stairs, going to the toilet and such.

By this afternoon she was perked up a bit, which was good and we had fish and chips for dinner, sitting at the kitchen table, where we all had a good laugh at some silly thing that was mentioned. That brightened her up quite a lot, which was good.

The Winter Olympics are on right now, and cleo loves Ice Dance, so this evening it was a nice bath and then up to bed to relax and watch the skating, which she seems to have enjoyed.
Hopefully we won't see too many days when cleo lets the situation get the better of her. To cleo I say "keep fighting girl, I am here by your side always"

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