When fighting against any kind of adversity it's often important to try and find some positives. Now, whether these are physical, mental, or simply diversions to distract us they can all help to lessen the burden which we carry.
Of course the heaviest burden in our lives is carried by cleo herself who has to deal with the actual physical and mental effects of her stroke. For those of us who have never experienced this it is impossible to imagine the sheer frustration she must feel, and the difficulties she must overcome in completing even the most simple task.
Throughout all the last several months I have tried to gain positives from all this, and these have been on many levels, for both cleo and me. Helping her to see progress when she does not, reminding her how she was immediately after the stroke, and how she is now, thankful that her mental faculties are unimpaired, the fact that she can walk a little now, and that we are able to enjoy each other's company...and so on.
further to that just getting what is due is often a help: benefits and such, which all make things easier. Of course we would give it all back to have cleo as she was before, but that won't happen so we have to get what we can, what is ours by right. Having said that it's not easy. There is a benefit that we have been trying to get for the girls (carer's allowance) which i cannot get because i earn too much, but which we have spent 5 months jumping through hoops to get, and which has finally happened this week. It's no wonder many people give up before they ever get near any benefit, you have to be totally singleminded and very very persistent. Luckily, I am.
On top of that part of cleo's Disability Living Allowance (DLA) is made up of a mobility component that enables her to get a car through what is known as Motability. Many of these cars simply take the monthly mobility component and provide a car, but of course, us being us, we want something a little bigger, so.. with the addition of a deposit we have ordered a new Nissan X-Trail which should be delivered on 4th September.
Why not we said? Too right.
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well i see that u do not keep your word.And u call your self Master.U wonted surport when things first happen now u do not need us..Sir and Master there words are who they are..Oh well see true colors sooner our later ....
I get DLA and swapped my mobility part for a car , which I am truly thank-ful for, its maintanance free and insurance and tax paid for. It is a real relief to have it.
pilgrimgirl_JE xx
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